O my friend.....

For some strange reason, this morning I wokeup with a string intent to listen to the songs of 'Happy Days'. Generally these so-called feel-good movies are not enjoyed by the certified psychos like me! May be I was missing my old friends.May be I was looking for new friends. I don't know the reason yet but the fact is that I wanted to listen to 'Happy Days'.

After listening to the songs, I started reflecting on the equations in friendship.

Life gives a certain shape to a person's thoughts, opinions and interests
which is nothing but ego or personality of that person. All these egos have a certain frequency and would be happy and joyful in the company of only those people whose ego frequency matches with themselves. So, if you go out and meet 100 people, out of which only 10 people have the same frequency as you, you would continue your relationship
with only those 10. This frequency match could be because of many reasons, like similar thought process, similar ambitions, similar economic background, not to forget the region, religion and cast factors in this. Of course, our movies show us the possibility of two friends who do not have anything in common, yet are bound together forever in their entire lives. As far as my experience(not a big one though), I have seen this only in movies, not anywhere outside. I strongly feel there would be at least one binding point between any two souls. That's because friends are chosen by us and so we would definitely consider some concrete factors (may be materialistic ones) to start a friendship.

After you start off a friendly relation with a person of the same frequency, you enter into a phase called maintenance of your friendship. In this phase, you start exploring the other person in various angles as the time progresses. It's not because you wan to. But because time poses you unlimited possibilities of possible mismatches in your personality traits. So, in your exploration, you would find different areas. In all these areas you would like your friend to think just like you.
Here you would assume that the people of the same frequency would have the same thought process.
So, you think that the way you think about this particular area is the right one. Some people are generous enough to give some room to the other person and allow them to be on their own terms. But some people, sometimes because of over-possessive or protective nature,
force the other person to think like them. This is when the other person observes a mismatch in frequency. But what happened to the similarities between you and your friend and all that frequency match?

The fact is that every person's personality will be based upon what he has gone thru in his past life. Depending on the similarities mentioned above, you tend to cross your paths in you lives. It does not ensure that the personality of the other person does not change over his entire life.
Moreover, you two were similar, not the same.
If you understand this and let the other person live his life without your intervention, both of you will be happy. What I mean to say is that however closer a relationship is, you would definitely have some gaps in it. That gap is sometimes called the personal and the most intimate zone to a person. This gap should be considered when you are trying to impose your thoughts and ideas on the other person. The same gap can be converted into room to the other person in the relationship. It's the room to think for himself. Room for himself. Otherwise, you would realize that the relationship is not working. We should not simply go by what they show on these stupid movies, where they show friends as people with absolutely no differences at all, for their entire lives!.

More on relationships later.

Cheers